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Supreme Court acknowledges homeschooling

The “Bong Hits 4 Jesus” case (Morse v. Frederick) made big news when the Supreme Court upheld the right of a school to limit the free speech of its students. I read stories about the case on several major news sites, but it wasn’t until I received my HSLDA newsletter that I learned of the impact the case may have on homeschooling.

<>In his opinion, Supreme Court Justice Clarence Thomas mentioned homeschooling as an option, if parents object to the way those schools are conducted (in this case, disallowing Frederick’s pro-marijuana banner). According to HSLDA president J. Michael Smith, this is the first time the Supreme Court has specifically recognized homeschooling as a viable alternative to public school, placing it on seemingly equal footing with public and private schools.

“If parents do not like the rules imposed by those schools, they can seek redress in school boards or legislatures; they can send their children to private schools or home school them; or they can simply move,” Thomas wrote.

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Tribute

Since this blog focuses on homeschooling and homeschoolers, I thought it would be appropriate to post a brief tribute to former homeschooler Lauren Ashley McCain, who was killed at Virginia Tech last week. According to CBS News, Lauren was a 20-year-old freshman, a Christian, and even lived in my home state of Texas for part of her childhood.

My prayers go out to Lauren’s family and friends, and the family and friends of everyone who died in this tragedy.

Family ties

Recently, I was at a dinner event and mentioned in conversation that I intend to be a homeschooling mother “when I grow up.” An acquaintance and fellow student sitting next to me responded that he was terribly glad his parents hadn’t chosen to homeschool him, as he would have gone crazy if his mother had taught him all he knew academically. Interestingly, that’s not a very uncommon reaction.

I have two significant reactions to that sort of remark. The first is to wonder why it is that someone who probably knows very little about homeschooling feels as if they should criticize someone else’s parenting decisions. It doesn’t make me mad, and it isn’t a very critical remark, but it’s such a frequent reaction and I have a hard time understanding it. After all, I would consider it tactless to say things like, “I’m glad I didn’t go to public school; they’re so dangerous” when someone mentions they went to public school.

The thing that really strikes me, though, is the way people seem unable to imagine happily spending that much time with their families. Looking back on my childhood, having my mom always around and available and involved in my life was a huge deal. She was, and still is, a role model to me. Sure, we had our fights, but even in the middle of them I knew she loved me.

When I started going to public high school, Mom always packed my lunches for me and decorated the paper bags with stickers and silly quotes. My friends laughed, but they always wanted to see what was on my bag each day, and I loved it because I knew my mom loved me and took the time to look for things to make me smile. Once I forgot my lunch at home, and Mom brought it to me even as one of my teachers disgustedly declared, “I would never do that for my kids!” (And I’m glad I’m not your kid, I thought to myself).

When I left for college, Mom was still home with my younger brothers, and I could call her in the middle of the day to talk for a few minutes when something exciting happened or I had a question or was a little homesick. A couple years later she started substitute teaching in our school district at home, and I couldn’t always get in touch with her. Now she teaches full time, and I always have to remind myself not to call her before 4 p.m. It was strange to realize at age 20 what it’s like to have a “working mother.”

All this is to say that I just don’t understand why so many non-homeschoolers seem to recoil at the idea of spending so much time with their parents and siblings. I think one of the benefits of homeschooling is the close family ties that are formed.

Parallel Societies

Most of the homeschool community is probably aware of the situation involving Melissa Busekros, a 15-year-old German girl who has been forcefully removed from her family because her parents started illegally teaching her at home. I’ve appreciated the in-depth coverage of the situation on this blog, which I recommend to anyone looking for more details.

This story is disturbing to me on many levels. As a homeschooler, I’m disturbed by the treatment of my fellow homeschoolers as criminals. As an American, I’m appalled at the violation of what seems to me to be a basic human right: the right to bring up one’s own children as one sees fit. As a Christian, I’m saddened by the fact that the anti-homeschooling movement in Germany seems driven in large part by a concern regarding children being brought up religiously.

It’s easy for me to simply condemn the German government for its attitude and action in enforcing a law that was put into place during Hitler’s Third Reich as an attempt to control the education of the nation’s children. However, I think it’s worth taking a deeper look into why this law is being enforced.

According to one German official quoted in the blog I referenced earlier, “The public has a legitimate interest in countering the rise of parallel societies that are based on religion or motivated by different world views and in integrating minorities into the population as a whole.” In other words, the government claims a compelling interest in making sure everyone fits into society. To a point, this makes sense. A certain amount of national solidarity is certainly desirable, and there’s also the concern of anti-social groups developing.

The first question I think we have to consider is this: Does homeschooling create a parallel society? It’s not an easy question to answer. On the one hand, homeschoolers are notoriously independent. We’re all different, we have different reasons for homeschooling, different approaches to education, etc. That’s why it’s so hard to collect data on homeschoolers: we’re not one coherent group, but individual families. On the other hand, we tend to band together either to cooperate in providing educational opportunities or in a way similar to alumni of a particular school. We’ve shared similar experiences and we often have similar attitudes. I would tend to think that we’re different enough, independent enough, and geographically scattered enough that we don’t pose any serious threat to society, but I will acknowledge that in general there is a typical homeschool mindset.

The question that follows, then, is: Is it in the best interests of a nation to prevent homeschooling and any parallel society it might produce? Again, there are a couple of sides to this. It is easier to control the masses if the masses all have the same social conditioning. It’s easier to understand where people are coming from, and everyone shares more or less the same perspective. At some point, though, it seems like this would create dangerous blind spots in society. I’m reminded of a short story by Isaac Asimov, titled “Strikebreaker.” In the story, a man from Earth visits a planet which, during his visit, is threatened with destruction because the man who controls the waste reclamation system goes on strike. Because of the social system of this planet, no one else can bear the thought of operating the machinery which would solve the problem — it’s just too distasteful. Not having been socialized on this planet, however, the visitor has no qualms about pulling a few switches to rectify the problem, thus saving the planet. Obviously Germany isn’t likely to face that particular situation, but my point is that there is a certain danger in uniform socialization. What if, for example, it was discovered some years down the road that the German education system was lacking in a particular aspect? Because it’s so uniform, how would anyone be able to step up to fill the gap?

Furthermore, I think homeschoolers at least in America have proven to be good citizens. German officials don’t seem concerned with test scores, so we’ll leave that alone and just assume homeschoolers can be well educated. We also tend to be very involved in our communities and government. According to a study in America titled “Homeschooling Grows Up,” 71 percent of homeschool graduates participate in an ongoing community service activity (such as coaching a youth sports team) and 88 percent are members of some type of organization (community, religious, professional, etc.). Additionally, 76 percent of homeschool graduates ages 18 to 24 reported voting in the last five years, compared to 29 percent of the same age group in the general population, and the percentage increases with age. These seem like desirable characteristics to me.

All things considered, I respectfully disagree with the German government that homeschooling creates undesirable parallel societies. My prayers are with Melissa and her family.

Frequently Asked Questions

To get things started, I’d like to offer answers to some questions people frequently have for homeschoolers. Feel free to leave more questions through the comments feature, and we’ll try to answer them as well!

Q: Did you sleep in and do school in your pajamas?
A: I’m not sure why, but this has to be the most frequently asked of them all. The answer depends on the homeschooler, but as a general rule (and for me personally), it’s “no.” My parents wanted us out of bed, dressed, fed, and ready to start the day by a certain time. The exception, of course, was when we were sick. Even then, we often heard the dreaded mantra, “If you’re well enough to watch TV, you’re well enough to do your schoolwork.” Darn!

Q: Do you have any friends? Or, How do you make friends?
A: Though I suppose there are exceptions, most homeschoolers do have friends. We meet them in a variety of ways. For me, the list included church, my neighborhood, homeschool co-ops, sports teams, etc. I especially enjoyed my homeschooled friends, and would call them as soon as I finished my schoolwork to see if they had also finished theirs so we could go play. Alas, my public-schooled friends missed out on most of the day’s fun, not getting home until 2 or 3 in the afternoon and then having to do homework for a significant portion of the evening.

Q: Why were you homeschooled?
A: Again, it really depends on the homeschooler. For many, it’s religious reasons: schools are indoctrinating kids, and parents would rather do their own indoctrination. For others, it’s academic: schools aren’t doing so well, and why shouldn’t an educated parent teach his or her own kids? It may also be social reasons, or the violence in schools, or what have you. In my case, my mom just thought she could do as good a job as anyone else.

Q: What did you do about grades and tests?
A: Again, I speak only for my own family, but we didn’t have grades until we were in high school (and then only for the sake of transcripts). We did our work, Mom checked it or we checked it against the key, and then we fixed whatever was wrong (really fixed it, not just changing the answers). After all, when you turn in a project at work, no one says, “Mostly right. You get an 85. Now go do the next one.” They say, “This part of the project is wrong. Go fix it and bring it back.”